On a first date or a blind date or a bumble date or whatever kind of date you’re agreeing to these days, there are a number of things to think about beforehand.
Meeting a stranger face-to-face for the first time in a forced romantic setting is never easy. You have no idea if the other person will look like their photos, if they’ll be significantly taller or shorter than promised, or if they’ll emit some kind of weird, musky odor that vaguely reminds you of your creepy middle school tennis coach.
But let’s say things do go well. You hit it off. There’s drinks and joking and general flirtation. The chemistry is there and you agree to make your way from bar number one to another cozier spot to continue the fun. You snuggle up in a booth, foreheads pressed together, conversation flowing faster than the alcohol.
He grabs your hand, caresses your palm, invites you back to his apartment just a few blocks away…
Here’s where things get interesting.
If you’re the type of woman who cares about her appearance, then you might’ve reached for the Spanx as you were prepping for your night out. Maybe it’s part of your regular pre-date ritual. You sip a glass of wine, straighten your curls, hook on the push-up bra, wriggle into the shapewear, slip on heels, and hit the town.
But no. No no no.
Spanx on a first date is the most moronic idea in the world. With tummy-tucking spandex smoothing out lumps and bumps under your dress, you can easily look 15 lbs thinner and literally 100% less jiggly. Your body becomes a straight up lie. If your date has plans to remove the Spanx at any point, he’s going to be slightly taken aback when he sees the real deal.
My motto when it comes to dating is, undersell and overdeliver.
Now, you don’t want to show up to a date looking like a homeless person, but if you’re honest about your appearance from the get-go then no one can feel dismayed or let down once the truth comes out.
Which brings me to my next point.
No straight guy is actually going to be disappointed that your clothes are off.
He might be confused. He might wonder why you look wobblier and thicker than you did 2 minutes ago, but either way, if you’re gettin nekkid, he’s probably just jazzed at the thought of what’s to come.
So, rather than using horrible, constricting, miserable shapewear to “hold it all in” for a few hours, just go as you. Be you. Do you. Stop lying to yourself and stop deceiving these poor dudes. If he’s not into the way you look as is, you don’t want to be with him anyway, right?